Thursday, 20 February 2020

Why all of the 'hate' recently? Spread the love.



Why do we find it so easy to hate on each other? Not so much face to face but online and on social media, hidden behind a screen we let the hate flow freely through the keyboard. 

So many people think that it’s ok. It’s not said to someone’s face so maybe it won’t hurt as much? 






Some things I’ve seen and read online recently are just awful. Would you really go up to someone in the street and say that to their face? Maybe some people are cruel enough to? 

Is it ok to comment because you think someone spends too much. ‘Oh I would never spend that much money on my child’ or ‘That’s a ridiculous amount of money to spend on an item of clothing’.  Well maybe you wouldn’t spend that but that doesn’t give you the right to dictate what others spend their money on. 

Or what about ‘What do they think they are wearing?’ or 'What do they think they look like?' Just because it’s not your taste in clothing or style doesn’t mean it doesn’t look nice or feel right for that person. The world would be a pretty boring place if we all had the same taste or style. 

On Instagram last year one of my child’s so called ‘friends’ put a poll to vote for the ugliest girl in their year and there was a vote for my child before the post was removed. Why would that child even put up something like that and then why would another child vote? Why the hatred? Why the dislike for others? What was the point? 

Just because you don’t agree with what others are doing doesn’t mean you can comment on it in a negative way. If someone followed you around and scrutinised every part of your day, each and every day, can you imagine how much that would drag you down to the point of being completely depressing. Even when you in yourself think you are doing the right thing someone else is there to make you think you aren’t. 

So why do it to others and even more so over social media or even in the media. Hidden behind a screen doesn’t mean you have the right to say what you like when you like. Hatred is spread far too easily recently and at the expense of others and their wellbeing and mental health. 

If we put as much effort into building each other up rather than tearing each other down the world would be a better place. Yet people can’t seem to do it. They can’t pass one nice comment on to someone no matter how small. That one comment could pick someone up for the rest of the day or even week. It could be that one comment that makes that person feel better about themselves just when they weren’t feeling at their best. 

So why can't we turn the hate into love. One small comment to someone who we wouldn't normally pass comment to. Leave a small note in a loved one's lunch letting them know how much they mean to you or you hope their day is going well. Leave a note on a colleagues desk thanking them for their help or input into work life. Drop a message to someone wishing them a good day or even offer 5 minutes of your time for a chat if needed. Spark up conversation to connect people together. 

All of this could make the world of difference to someone who may really need it and yet we don't always know it at the time. Be Kind.

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