Sunday, 3 April 2016

Parenting wars. We are all in this together, it's not right to judge others by your standards alone. We are all doing our best, there is no right or wrong way.

Parenting Wars

In the past I have seen many people across social media comment on the way others parent.

The breast versus bottle debate is the one huge bug bear I have when it comes to 'parenting wars' but there are so many other things that parents feel they can judge and comment on about other parents.

Why do we do it? When it comes to parenting I am sure we are all trying to do our best and often we turn to social media outlets for help or advice from other parents about raising our children.

I still despair at not getting an instruction manual on leaving the hospital with my new baby!

No-one prepared me for this parenting job! 

Whether we want advice on weaning our babies or what cloth nappies to use, what nurseries are good in the local area or what toys would people recommend you can usually find lots of people to answer your questions and help with advice.

However, I have also found lots of judging and comments about the way others parent. Surely as long as our children are fed, watered and happy that's all that matters.

It doesn't matter what car you drive.

Whether they have holidays each year or not, whether they wear designer clothes or not, whether they do extra curricular activities or not, none of that is of any business to any other parent or make any of us any better than anyone else.

I mean, I'm no super parent. I'm learning from day to day how to raise my children, even after number five I'm still finding that there's more to learn and to understand about the little one's and I am far from perfect. Mary Poppins would be ashamed if she saw me now!

I raised these!!!

There's no need for the comments about someone spending a fortune on designer clothes or holidays if that's what they want to spend their money on, it's no concern of others. We can spend our money how we like, we can feed our children what we like, we can dress them how we like and raise them to the standards we feel are right for us. What is right for us may not be for others but that doesn't make any of us right or wrong in what we do.

Yes my children eat Mcdonalds. 

We are all the same, we are all parents raising our children in the best way we can and in the way we choose to do it. Nobody is doing anything wrong even if it feels like that's what others imply. As long as our children are happy it doesn't matter what others think.

Designer or High Street, UK holiday or faraway destinations, home school or boarding school, breast or bottle, there is no right or wrong or better way to parent.

We're all in this together. Parents unite not Parenting wars.

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