Wednesday, 27 August 2014

The downside of not giving your ADHD child their medication, even though there is also an upside to not giving them as well. What to do for the best?!

Our house at this instant, right now has a whirlwind running around it from room to room terrorising the other children. I thought that by age 17 I would never see my child. Not that I don't want to but I thought that teen boys slept in until late, sat on games consoles or went out with their mates for ages on end and only coming back for food or money. In this house it isn't the case, he is here, constantly. He's currently standing in the front room shouting random sentences out aloud and interrupting some quiet time that the younger ones are 'trying' to have. A few moments ago he was upstairs annoying Thing 2 who is quietly making various creations from loom bands. She was quiet until he went up there and then I have screaming and shouting before I have to go and tear them apart. 

Thing 1 who is 17 years old was diagnosed with ADHD with autistic traits at the age of 9. I always thought there was something underlying but throughout Infant School, although there was the usual comments of 'Oh he doesn't sit still', 'If he just concentrated a bit more during class time' 'He's easily distracted' etc..... nobody back then voiced any real concerns. Even through the first couple of years at Junior School he got into, what I would call, normal every day mischief. He got his name on the board, he didn't get on well with some other boys etc... but again nothing major. 

However by Year 5 things were going downhill rapidly. They tried many different things to see if they would help but by then it was too late. I was getting called into school most days. Some days I would drop him off and walk home and by the time I got home I would have a phone call asking to collect him. I will always remember the one day that they had new parents visiting and I was told not to take him into school, that's nice I thought?! 

The whole statement process flew by in a blur to me. Soon after his diagnosis the school were very helpful in getting him statemented as quickly as was possible but then at the end of Year 5 they also said they didn't want him back in Year 6, that's nice I thought again?! 

Anyway, he has flown through Senior School thanks to a fab team there and almost finished a year at college but gave up in the last few weeks, what a waste. So he is now stuck in a rut as to what to do next. 

I digress anyway as I was talking about the here and now. He didn't have his medication this morning, which is a bad thing as it really controls his behaviour, even now at 17 he is a live wire, he is running around the house liked a crazed toddler high on E numbers and generally being annoying. However, there is an upside to not taking his meds. When he isn't running around like a loon, he can be very chatty, A LOT more sociable and he eats. His meds surpress his appetite and he won't eat much at all during the day but then will eat constantly throughout the night, he doesn't sleep much at all. 

So there is no right or wrong. I'm wrong for medicating him according to some and I'm right according to others. You think that every now and again we will have a medication free day and by the afternoon you are really regretting your decision. 

I'm off to scrape him off the ceiling and try and calm down the other children! 


  1. Gosh, what a catch 22. It must be really difficult ot know what to do for the best. ADHD so often goes unrecognised doesn't it?

    1. Kate, it really is a struggle some days to know what to do for the best. He was so skinny when he was younger but he has now filled out rather well, lol! It's so easy to say that we will have a no meds day but by the end of the day you are often regretting it as it all falls apart around the younger ones bedtimes!