Tuesday, 21 June 2016

When the time comes to say 'Enough babies now'! It doesn't mean the broodiness ever goes away or the 'Five is enough' comments are justified

Our time has come. No more babies here. As people chirp the same line every day of my life "Are you having any more" I 'confidently' respond with a No.

Some people even respond to their own comment themselves without giving me a chance to respond. "Are you having any more, five's enough isn't it". It's like they have made the decision for me because they feel it's their job.

Is five enough? Five may be more than enough for some people which is why they feel the need to comment. One is enough for a lot of people! However, there are lots of larger families out there with 5, 6, 7 or more children.

Whilst looking back through the generations it was the norm to have a large family. My Mum was 1 of 7, the OH's grandad was 1 of 11 yet I bet they didn't get the digs and comments that get passed around so freely nowadays.

So here we are, a family of 7. Our eldest is 19 although still needs as much care and attention as the 3 year old! They aren't the most helpful children or the best behaved but then that is our own doing so can't really complain. That's not to say every day of our lives is a complete living hell. It's hectic for sure but then you wouldn't have 5 children and think it wouldn't be.

I spend my days feeling like I run a soup kitchen, I regularly become mediator between squabbling siblings and the clothes washing mountain has never been conquered.

I spend my days watching Peppa Pig, the same episode kinda grates after seeing it 50 million times but it's what the children want. They want you to push them on the swing, play Play Doh, read books or go to the park. I don't want to spend my days saying no because I've got washing to do or hoovering that needs to be done. Our house very much has a lived in look!!

One day my babies will be grown up and gone (not for a while yet) but I certainly don't want to look back and say that I didn't spend enough time with them, that I was always saying no to them, that their days weren't filled with fun and laughter in between the squabbles.

If the OH turned around to me today and said he wanted another baby I would say yes straight away, however he definitely doesn't want any more! I am also very happy that they are all growing up (too fast) and Thing 5 is due to start school this year. It is all very strange to know that in just a few months I will have 4 children in school and 1 that has gone through school and out the other side already. I will have so much more time on my hands, I can sort out the unruly house, redecorate, concentrate more on helping out at schools too and enjoying my new found freedom.

The broodiness will never go away though. There is no magic switch to turn the broodiness off once you've finished building your own brood. I thought there was, I thought recently that I was done, I thought that my adamant No to people's burning question of "Are you having any more" would be convincing enough to them and to myself.

So there, I am letting everyone know. It's mixed emotions. I am looking forward to my new found freedom during the day time but I am still broody. This week definitely marks the end of an era and the start of a new one that I'm not sure I am ready for.

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