Monday, 20 January 2020

Nights out with friends & family. Do you have FOMO or JOMO?


Parenting changes your life. It doesn’t mean that everything has to change but sometimes you can feel like you are missing out...... or you just need to get out!
Having children doesn’t mean you have to stay at home until they are 18. You can meet other parents for coffee and play dates and babysitters can be a godsend when it comes to a night out. Some of us really look forward to a night out and a night off from looking after the children. 

However do you want to go out or would you rather stay at home? 

Dadof5 definitely has FOMO (fear of missing out). We were the first people among his friends to have children so we were either battling to find babysitters so we could go out or taking the children with us if it were allowable. Even now that more of his friends have children he still asks them what they are doing for New Year’s Eve or their birthday. Or he says ‘Oh I haven’t heard from X person in a while’ when he hasn’t made the effort to contact them and meet up either. Nobody is doing anything massively amazing but he still feels like he might be missing out on something that his friends are all doing.... he’s not! As I stated in a previous blog post I’m going to try and spend more time with Dadof5 this year, the same could be said for spending more time with friends but things are different now. It’s more of a catch up over coffee or a meal out. No more partying and clubbing for us! 

I’m more of a JOMO person. To be honest I only heard about JOMO (joy of missing out) recently. Although not so much the joy part of it, I am not overly joyous that I have missed out on something, sometimes I just don't want to go. Don’t get me wrong, if it’s an afternoon tea or lunch out I am there for sure but nights out, some of the time, I’m just not up for it. I’m definitely more of an ‘in my pyjamas by 6.30’ kind of gal these days. If it’s someone’s birthday meal or a special occasion then it’s a definite yes. Even now that we have the older ones who we can leave to babysit we need to make sure they are all prepared for us to leave, the younger ones are in their beds and they all know where they stand behaviour wise, you know what I mean! I don’t want to come home at midnight and everyone’s still awake, that’s the part of the evening I don’t like. 






Mention afternoon tea and I am there. As you can see I love an afternoon tea! 



Having children can change your social life. If you have a good network of babysitters then you can still go out lots. Although the cost of arranging babysitters does then bump up the price of a night out. As I said, now the children are older it is easier in that aspect but we still don’t go out a lot. Although I have challenged myself to change that in 2020. 

Some of us don’t want to leave the children to go out and yet others really do want to get out and get away from the house (and the children) for an evening and meet up with others. It can do us good to get out and have some time for ourselves. 

So do you have FOMO or JOMO? Would you rather stay at home in the evenings. Or do you sometimes wish you could go out and see your friends more. 

Saying that, we’ve not had a good meal out with friends for a while. I’m off to book it, if I can drag myself away from my cosy pyjamas! 



Tuesday, 14 January 2020

[AD] REVIEW of the Clementoni action & reaction set and mechanics laboratory monster truck STEM kits




We had these amazing STEM kits sent to us from Clementoni to review and the children loved them. 
STEM stands for science, technology, engineering and maths. 

There has been a lot of focus on STEM recently as it’s thought that less children/young adults are focussing on these as a college or career path now than in past years. 





In our house the children can spend a bit too much time on their tablets. Playing games, watching YouTube or occasionally getting some homework done. 

However I’m always very keen to get them more hands on and involved in making and doing projects either on their own or working together. 

First of all the children wanted to try out the Clementoni action and reaction set. With more than 120 buildable components there are so many possibilities to make a track to watch the chain reaction of events on this marble run style kit. 






With this truly unique scientific kit, finding out about the wonders of physics becomes easy and great fun! A science lab packed with special pieces and accessories offering lots of playing options where kids can experiment with gravity, forces and levers. The illustrated manual will guide the little players as they attempt increasingly difficult tasks, entertaining them as they learn! It comes with some scales, a hammer pendulum, slides, towers and lots of other pieces for kids to grow in knowledge as they build ingenious compositions. 

The children absolutely loved trying out different configurations of the track. Each ball is weighted slightly differently so you have to use each one correctly to create the correct reaction. We loved this and it’s been played with so many times since we received it. 


The next kit was the mechanics laboratory monster truck kit. With over 200 components to make 10 different vehicle combinations each with a different difficulty level this kit is great. Build, engineer and experiment with motion transmission. 

Build the vehicles using levers and gears with independent suspension on the vehicles too. Choose from the monster truck or other vehicles such as the hot rod, spider truck and many more. 






With the easy to follow instruction booklet or online with the 3D instructions in the mechanics laboratory app this was a great kit for our 2 children aged 10 and 13 years. Our youngest at age 7 helped out Daddy with a build too though! 

Both kits are recommended for age 8 years + although with a little help our 7 year old loved these too especially the action and reaction set. 

With a great price point too these Clementoni STEM kits are fantastic value and with so many to choose from you can really get hands on with so many different activities. 

We will definitely be looking into getting more for the children to enjoy. 

Sunday, 12 January 2020

Everything that is wrong with school attendance awards


Schools seem to grade EVERYTHING these days.

I get the need for GCSEs/grades for getting into college and putting on your CV in later life but even then you can’t always gauge someone’s talent just on their ability to sit exams and the grades they get from them. Children thrive in very different environments. 

These days there is so much pressure on them to succeed even in their SATs tests that they sit in Year 2 and Year 6 and yet what is it all for? When your child goes for a job when they are older will their potential employer bask in the success of their Year 6 SATs, no. Will they rejoice that they had 100% attendance all throughout Junior School, no. 

Now I’m not saying that school attendance isn’t important because it is. 

If there are parents keeping their children home because they can’t be arsed to take them into school, sort it. Parents that keep their children off school to go shopping or to a theme park because it’s their birthday, sort it. 

However there’s those times that we can’t help that they aren’t at school. 

Illness for example. We can’t help it when our children are ill and believe me they love to pass an illness around. Coughs, colds, sickness bugs, you name it and kids breed it. Once it hits one child you will find that they drop like flies. There’s nothing worse than making a child go back to school when they aren’t feeling 100% better. However, there’s so much pressure put on parents about attendance that we find ourselves sending them back to school sooner than we should. 




A poorly Thing after a hard day at school.


Then there’s the awards for attendance. What’s that all about?? 

Here you go Tommy here’s an award for not being ill in the last school year, meanwhile we won’t give Sarah an award because she was off, even though it was for important hospital appointments that she had to attend due to an illness/condition that she has no control over. She was at school every other day of the year though.......... but tough. 

Then we have the class attendance records so we are now pitching classes against each other and at the end of each term all of the children with 100% attendance get the chance to win something. However, Sarah can forget about it for her whole school career, she isn’t ever going to get anything...... but tough. 



Getting into school on a snow day.


So schools, listen up. While as parents we get that school attendance is important please quit with the attendance awards. If they are ill they aren’t coming into school, if they’ve got vital hospital appointments to attend then they are going to go but please don’t penalise them for it, it’s not right.


Friday, 10 January 2020

'We have no food Mum'. What no food means to my child and what it means to me!



There's no fooooood, grumble the children at me incessantly. What no food actually means is that there is no rubbish for them to eat. 



The kids idea of food they want to eat


Between 7 of us I am sure at least 5 of us know where the shops are and are capable of walking down to the local one! However, it's down to me to think about always having the cupboards stocked and if they aren't I'm in for it.

When they say there is no food in the house what they really mean is that there is nothing that they reallllly fancy eating right at that very minute. We are low on food and I have a food shop coming but if for some reason there was a freak storm outside and we were all housebound for a few days we would survive! There would be some interesting meals made and we would be eating dry cereal for breakfast or maybe frozen peas, but we wouldn't fade away or die from hunger.



The weekly food shopping bill seems to go up and up yet we still don't have any food, or so they say. 


Most days I stick my head in the freezer and wonder why it's not full to the brim with every possible flavour of Ben and Jerry's for me to choose from. It just isn't going to happen! There is never going to be a time when you pop your head in a cupboard or in the fridge and there will be that one thing you are craving right at that very second. It's just the way it works. I can easily spend over £150 a week on the food shop and someone will still moan that I forgot to buy something that they really wanted.

I want to downsize the shopping bill whilst still being able to feed us all for the week and not get to the point where they are all moaning at me because there is 'no food'. That and the fact that they are just being fussy, what's wrong with mushy peas for breakfast??!






My children's idea of what food they neeeeed!! 


My one gripe, there's never any milk in the fridge when I want it!!!!! I can't get through the day without tea. I'm off to grumble at myself for being rubbish at food shopping and not making sure everyone has everything they want 24/7. What a rubbish mother and wife I am??!

Is it the same in your house? Am I the only person who gets to the point where there is 'nothing' to eat? Do you think others in the house should be a bit more active in helping?

Growing up as an 80's child. The freedom we had!





I was born in 1979 so I’m officially old! 

Growing up in the 80s was fab. We lived down a street with a lot of family living just doors away. My uncle lived next door, one Nan lived 3 doors away and my other Nan and Grandad lived opposite. My Dads uncle lived just a couple of doors away from my Nan and Grandad too.

We also had a few family friends down the street too.

Back in the 80s it was still a fairly ‘open door’, or at least unlocked door, era as far as I remember. Popping in and out of my grandparents houses fairly often as well as walking down to the friends houses too.

Parents would sit and chat with friends whilst all of the children played outside. Football, roller skating, bike riding, tree climbing. You name it and we did it. We knew our boundaries as set by our parents but they certainly aren’t as limiting as we need to be these days. 



We didn’t have mobile phones for our parents to check up on us or for us to call them if we needed them. We had a set time to be back or they would come and find us. If we weren’t at the park we were all congregating at one friends house. Where you found our bikes parked outside you found us! 

We would rush in from school, grab a snack, get changed and we would be out the door again. ‘Be back in time for your dinner’ would be all we heard as we ran out of the door. And we would be back for dinner, most of the time. Dinner would be hurriedly eaten so we could try and get out again before we lost the sunlight.




We weren't tied by over worrying or the 'health & safety' implications that we seem to have now. We would find out afterwards why it wasn't a good idea to do what we did!

We would tie a skateboard to the back of our friends bike to tow each other along behind or climb over the fence at the park instead of using the gate and it's only afterwards we would find out that maybe it was a great thing to do. We lived in our roller skates as we grew up too and we had a huge sloped concrete driveway, this was fab for rolling down, picking up speed and it did end up in the road! 

Who didn't have bruises everywhere and scabby knees from our adventures outside and the freedom we had to explore and learn??




We had so much more freedom back then and I do feel sorry for our children today. At the same age as Thing 4 is now I was out on my bike riding 10 minutes down the road to my friends house. I wouldn’t let him do that now. Maybe we worry too much, maybe we should let them have a bit more freedom than we do whilst still understanding that it can't be exactly the way it was back then. 




Do you wish we could give our children the freedom we had? Do you find your children are indoors more than they are outdoors? Should we let them go further than they do or is it just not possible any more?